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Get Your Reality Checked

March 18, 2013

iStock_000012990747XSmallI had the pleasure recently to speak at a leadership roundtable event with sixty business people who shared a common purpose – they want to be more effective leaders in their companies.

I was honored to help extend their understanding of how servant leaders create high performing, values-aligned organizations, every day.

These leaders meet twice a month to learn the elements of servant leadership and purposeful culture, and examine how to embrace those approaches in their own organizations, divisions, departments, or teams.

In talking with the consultants who created this successful program, the classic “knowing-doing” gap came up. Learning all the elements of servant leadership and culture refinement is easier than implementing those elements!

Most of the program’s participants engage fully in the program sessions, madly taking notes. However, many have not yet had success embracing these new approaches.

What gets in the way? There are hundreds of variables that can inhibit embracing new behaviors and habits. Limited time. Limited opportunity to test something that may not work the first time (!). Organizational systems may not support the new behaviors. The organization’s values and norms may not support a shift from “command and control” influencing to servant leadership.

And, some of the program’s participants have asked for help. They’ve invited the consultants in to their company to examine how the leader is perceived and how the organization’s culture is operating. Just as I do with new culture clients, these consultants interview the leader’s direct reports and a variety of other players throughout the organization. They conduct a culture assessment. They provide the results in the form of an interview summary and the assessment profile.

These tools help shed light on good and great practices that the leader demonstrates – as well as the gaps between current behavior and desired behaviors. The gaps between how the culture currently operates and how high performing, values-aligned companies operate are immediately apparent. Opportunities for servant leadership behaviors are clearly outlined.

With this data in hand, the leaders are fully informed about their current reality. With that clarity, they see the benefits of changing their approach and of modifying their organizational culture. They also realize that they can’t make these changes on their own; they need the guidance of trusted partners (their consultants) to help them gain traction in the midst of the hectic pace of their work environment.

How well do you see your current reality? If you are like most of us, your perception is skewed. “Things are fine. We’re on the cusp of getting better – I can feel it.” That may be true. Wouldn’t you prefer to have real data in hand so you can understand any gaps that exist – and begin to address them?

Join in the conversation about this post/podcast in the comments section below. What effective ways to you have of keeping in touch with the perceptions of your internal customers – your employees? How well would you say your organization culture operates today – pretty good, not so good, or somewhere in between?

What is it like to live in your organization’s culture? Share your experiences in my fast & free Performance-Values Assessment. Results and analysis are described on my blog site’s research page.

This research can help you refine your organization’s corporate culture. Contact me to discuss conducting the Performance-Values Assessment in your company.

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Last month, a 13-year-old Massachusetts boy got the best Christmas present ever from his parents: an iPhone.

His joy was short-lived when he discovered that his Mom, Janell Hofmann, had outlined an 18-point contract for him to sign to use the phone.

The story went viral; many news organizations featured the story. Teens railed at the rules and parents admired the Mom for expressing her love AND her expectations so clearly.

I’m not sure if the story generated enthusiasm for setting others up for success with clear agreements in the workplace. Janell’s approach modeled the best practices of creating boundaries while validating the person – an unusual yet powerful combination.

Rules AND Relationships

In parenting and in leading team members, rules are important. Rules set boundaries for what is right, for desired outcomes. Too often, though, rules (to-do’s and NOT-to-do’s) are the only content. Great bosses (and great parents like Janell) create a foundation of care and consideration for the person first. The rules are then described in the context of that relationship. This approach validates the person then describes the desired behavior.

Let’s examine a few of the elements of Janell’s contract for her son.

“You are a good & responsible person; you deserve this gift. I love you madly.” These statements create the context for the entire contract. They validate the son’s good spirit and heart. Mom says, “I love you” boldly. Demonstrated care and consideration creates mutual trust and respect, in families and in workplaces.

“Answer the phone. Say hello; use your manners.” Janell outlines simple expectations about her son using good manners with his phone. With this standard set, she can praise aligned behavior and re-direct mis-aligned behavior, without malice.

“Turn the phone over to one of your parents at 7:30pm each school night, 9pm on weekends. It will remain off until 7:30am the next morning.” This statement outlines parameters. These timeframes may evolve as her son follows the curfews – or if he doesn’t follow the curfews.

“If the iPhone breaks, you’ll pay for it’s replacement.” This statement creates clear accountability for the care of the device – and there are consequences if the device isn’t cared for properly.

“Do not use this device to lie, fool, or deceive another human being.” This bold statement creates a standard of treatment of others; this is a core value of Janell’s and she’s transmitting it clearly to her son.

“You are not a rude person; do not let this device change that.” Rude cell phone behavior is more common than nice cell phone behavior. Janell sets up yet another family value – being nice – and asks that her son not allow others’ rude behavior to change his kind behavior.

“Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Wonder without googling.” Technology is everywhere in our 3D world. Mom guides son to set technology aside with this statement. She’s making a plea for being fully present in life – we all could learn from this lesson.

“You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will talk about it. We will start over. I’m on your team; we’re in this together.” Janell refers to the inevitable – breaking of the contract – while establishing that she and son are “in this together.” Son messing up is a natural occurrence – he won’t get thrown out of the family, but he will have to face the consequences of losing use of his phone for awhile.

“I hope you agree to these terms. Most of the lessons here do not just apply to the iPhone, but to life.” Mom points out the obvious: her job is to raise her son to be an effective, contributing member to family and society.

How clear are agreements in your work environment?

Join in the conversation about this post/podcast in the comments section below. To what extent do rules & relationships co-exist in your workplace? What are your experiences and opinions about clear agreements?

What is it like to live in your organization’s culture? Complete my Performance-Values Assessment. Results and analysis are described on my blog site’s research page.

This research can help you refine your organization’s corporate culture. Contact me to discuss conducting the Performance-Values Assessment in your company.

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iStock_000005390930XSmallI immensely enjoy opportunities to dialog with followers on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and this blog. Sometimes my #CoolCulture, #PositivityAtWork, #ValuesMatter, and #BestSelf tweets generate agreement from readers. Sometimes they do NOT.

Responses to my “great boss” tweets have typically enabled followers to describe how “less than great” their bosses are. I’ve experienced the same lousy boss behaviors that you probably have at some point in your career.

One of my lousy bosses made grand promises – to staff, to volunteers, to customers. However, he kept few of his commitments. I learned his word was not trustworthy.

Another lousy boss of mine was amazingly skilled at pointing out my mistakes and failures. However, he was quiet when I exceeded expectations and moved the organization forward. I learned to insulate myself from his presence because all I heard from him was disappointment.

My worst boss asked me to lie. My non-profit branch had raised $25,000 in our annual campaign my first year as executive director. That was double what the branch had raised before! At the campaign’s closing dinner, with 300 volunteers and staff in attendance, my boss told me to announce that we’d raised not $25,000, but $30,000. I refused and announced the real total. He was not happy; I didn’t care. Our values mis-match was deep and wide. I left that boss and job as quickly as I could.

I’ve been lucky. I’ve had more than one great boss. My experiences with those leaders inspire my “great boss” tweets each day. Consider these statements about my great bosses:

  • Great bosses celebrate staff progress equally loudly as they celebrate staff accomplishment.
    Consistent team member effort leads to traction on goals. Great bosses don’t wait until the “game is over” and the goal is done to recognize team members.
  • Great bosses create a fair & just work environment. No favorites – all play by the same rules.
    Team members can smell boss “favorites” a mile away. Any hint of unfairness will quash team members’ application of discretionary energy towards team goals.
  • Great bosses expect the best & give others the benefit of the doubt. Mostly, people live UP to those.
    Optimism is a powerful force in human relationships. Not every team member will meet those expectations – but more will than you’d think.
  • Great bosses inspire staff to constantly discover new ways to accomplish tasks & serve others.
    Continuous improvement only happens when team members feel trusted & respected. When bosses truly serve team members, customer service skyrockets.
  • Great bosses roll up their sleeves & contribute side by side when things get hectic.
    Great bosses are not “above” serving alongside team members when needed. Talented team members coach & direct the boss so they’re contributing!
  • Great bosses do not tolerate missed standards of performance OR values. Talented staff deliver BOTH.
    This is a foundational element of “great boss” demonstration for me: make performance standards clear, make values standards clear, and hold all accountable for both.

What did (or does) your great boss do to earn that coveted title? What “great boss” behaviors do you appreciate most? Join in the conversation about this post/podcast in the comments section below.

What is it like to live in your organization’s culture? Complete my new Performance-Values Assessment. Results and analysis are described on my blog site’s research page.

This new research can help you refine your organization’s corporate culture. Contact me to discuss conducting the Performance-Values Assessment in your organization.

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Energetic Asian professional womanWhat do you LOVE to do? Doing what you’re good at and which serves others is a fabulous way to renew your passion, day to day.

We all get into ruts where the daily activities of our life and work become more “going through the motions” than “going for the gold!”

Yet when we are enthused about the people and opportunities we engage in moment to moment, we are more present, more focused, and more able to leverage our skills in service to others.

You are responsible for your own well-being. By creating avenues for inspirational activity, inside and outside the workplace, you take charge of your own passion.

Stoke Your Own Fire

If your job today doesn’t have enough elements that inspire you, create avenues for personal inspiration. It may require time management on your part and possibly even you “selling” the benefits to your boss and others, but the boost in personal passion will be worth it.

Love to write? Maybe volunteer to write a blog for your department or division. Love to engage with people? Maybe volunteer to interview customers to learn what’s working and what’s not. Love to coach? Maybe volunteer to be a mentor to a new team leader or employee. Love teamwork? Maybe volunteer for a key project team.

You might find avenues for re-sparking your passions outside the workplace, as well.

Love to cook? Experiment with new dishes. When they’re “delicious,” consider presenting your new meal to family, friends, or neighbors. Love animals? Maybe volunteer at your local animal shelfter. Love to serve? Consider volunteering at a local soup kitchen, feeding the homeless. Love to play music and/or sing? Maybe volunteer to perform at a retirement home or hospital.

For example, I’m a member of the Jones And Raine band here in Denver, CO, USA. We do 3-4 free shows annually to support causes we’re passionate about. This Saturday the band will open for Firefall at a fundraiser for Promise Ranch Therapeutic Riding. We’re thrilled to support this fine organization.

Each of these suggestions requires you to change your approach and proactively engage in new activities that leverage your skills & heart in service to others. There is some risk involved. You may not find the perfect avenues on the first try.

Don’t sit and wait – or sit and stew. The possibilities for greater personal passion, every day, are endless.

Please join in the conversation! What stokes your fire AND serves others, at work or in life? How do you make time to engage in those activities? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Get your FREE EXCERPT from my new book, #POSITIVITY AT WORK tweet, written with the delightful Lisa Zigarmi. View our video on why we wrote the book, understand the research on positivity in the workplace, and more!

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iStock_000012681402XSmallAre you your employees’ best boss?

If you’re not, you may be surprised how quickly you can become their best boss. It’s not complicated.

Think about your own best boss – the person you worked for who created an environment where you were immensely productive and you loved going to work every day. What did your best boss do to create that environment for you and your team members?

I’ve asked this question of clients for over 20 years. The answers are remarkably consistent across a wide range of industries, organization size, country of origin, even personality. From my research, these are the most consistently reported “best boss” behaviors:

  • They care. Each team member is a valued person.
  • They celebrate. They give praise, encouragement, and credit.
  • They listen.
  • They validate others’ ideas, efforts, and accomplishment.
  • They’re available.
  • They inspire increasing performance in service to customers.

Notice the pattern of these great boss behaviors. They are primarily about support, validation, and connection – not about, for example, pay, goals, or metrics. Certainly great bosses must inspire terrific consistent performance. And, for these “best bosses,” they spend more time creating and maintaining positive personal relationships than they do driving results.

The payoff for leaders that connect through conversations with employees? Better results.

Knowing these consistent great boss behaviors is one thing – demonstrating them every day with team members is another! The simplest, most effective avenue for leaders to connect to employees is through regular conversations.

Two colleagues have written a terrific book that helps leaders have more authentic conversations with employees. Beverly Kaye and Julie Winkle Giulioni’s book, “Help Them Grow or Watch Them Go,” is available today. Beverly and Julie present a vibrant model that outlines the importance of proactive, frequent discussions about progress, opportunities, and career.

Their model describes conversations that engage leaders and employees in hindsight (learning from past effort and identifying what employees are good at AND love doing), foresight (considering the changing business environment and what those changes mean for the future), and finding insight, the “sweet spot” where hindsight overlaps foresight, illuminating paths to enhance employee skills, contribution, and career.

Being a great boss is not complicated. It simply requires proactive engagement on the leader’s part to invest time, attention, and conversation with each team member. Where those conversations enable the employee to feel cared for, listened to, validated, and inspired, the leader is on the path to being that team member’s best boss.

Please join in THIS conversation! What did your best boss do to create an inspiring work experience for you? How do your great bosses engage you in career conversations? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Get your FREE EXCERPT from my new book, #POSITIVITY AT WORK tweet, written with the delightful Lisa Zigarmi. View our video on why we wrote the book, understand the research on positivity in the workplace, and more!

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